Thoughts on the October Surprise

I woke up with a splitting headache. Now I’m in tears, reading so many stories of how we were ogled and grappled and grabbed and harassed, abused. I am triggered by the evil words of that evil man. I am remembering how I was walking to Riverside Park in NYC, my skates over my shoulder as a man walked towards me with a smile and beckoned me to come close. I was raised to be polite. I did. He bent down and told me what he wanted to do to me. I didn’t understand what he was saying but I knew I’d better run. I was 8. The same age as my beloved granddaughter. I got away, only to be ogled and groped and grappled and harassed for decades after that. Now I’m afraid for our daughters and granddaughters. There are far too many men like the evil one. Far too many.

One good thing to come out of this is: 10 million women sharing their stories online. Please read: the Washington Post’s ‘This is rape culture’: After Trump video, thousands of women share sexual assault stories

Grief, Writing

Grief is in my DNA

As a child of Holocaust survivors who lost their families I already knew this. I’ve always said “Grief is in my DNA.” But I had no idea this could be scientifically proven. My next question is how it affects my children and grandchildren. Only one word for that – oy….

These two articles, “Children of Jewish Holocaust survivors inherited their trauma, Mount Sinai study says,” and “Study of Holocaust survivors finds trauma passed on to children’s genes” are great reads if you’re interested.

Books, Grief, Interview, Writing

Linda Schreyer Interviews Mark Liebenow

Linda Schreyer and Mark Liebenow
Linda Schreyer and Mark Liebenow

Linda Schreyer continues her Writers’ Talk at Studio West podcast series with an insightful interview with naturalist and grief writer Mark Liebenow.

Mark Liebenow is a grief author and naturalist.

“His essays on grief have been published in grief journals like Modern Loss, The Manifest Station, and Open to Hope, as well as in literary journals like River Teeth, Chautauqua, Saint Katherine Review, Antler, and Under the Sun. He is a member of the Refuge in Grief community and coordinates its Grief Café. He writes about grief on his website, and is finishing up work on his grief memoir.

Liebenow is the author of four books, the most recent being Mountains of Light: Seasons of Reflection in Yosemite, published by the University of Nebraska Press in 2012. His essays, poems, and literary criticism have been published in journals like The Colorado Review, Hayden’s Ferry Review, Fifth Wednesday Journal, Spoon River Poetry Review, Disquieting Muses Quarterly, Clackamas Literary Review, Crab Orchard Review, and Rain Taxi Review. ”

His grief blog is, his Twitter @MarkLiebenow2, and his website is Please visit his website for more information.

And of course, enjoy the podcast!

Grief, Interview

Linda Schreyer Interviews Elaine Mansfield

Linda Schreyer Interviews Elaine Mansfield



Tears and Tequila Author, Linda Schreyer, talks with Elaine Mansfield about the many things they have in common- grief, living in the country, spiritual paths, the power of ritual after the death of a loved one, and more.

Elaine Mansfield is an author and hospice bereavement workshop leader. Her memoir, Leaning Into Love: A Spiritual Journey Through Grief, captures the heart–from the extraordinary closeness of Elaine’s marriage to how she and her husband Vic transform their struggle with cancer and despair into a conscious relationship with mortality. After Vic’s death, Elaine leans into her ongoing love as grief leads her through emotional and spiritual depths on a journey into her new life.

Elaine writes with an intimate connection to nature and a spiritual perspective that reflects over forty years as a student of philosophy, Jungian psychology, mythology, and meditation. She and her husband, Vic, became students of the Dalai Lama on his first US visit in 1979. Six weeks before his death, Vic taught with the Dalai Lama in a science and religion colloquium. Elaine lives on 71 acres of woods, fields, and sunset views bordering the Finger Lakes National Forest in upstate New York where she moved with her family in 1972.

For more information on Elaine, please visit her website:

Books, Grief, Interview

Blog Talk Radio: Author Linda Schreyer and Writer/Filmmaker Niva Dorell Smith


Tears and Tequila co-author Linda Schreyer hosts a new episode of Blog Talk Radio with filmmaker and freelance writer, Niva Dorell Smith.

In May, 2011 Niva lost her husband Kaz to brain cancer. He was 43 and Niva was just 40. She speaks to Linda about her loss, and her own writing. You can read Niva’s story, Saying I Do, and Saying Farewell, at Modern Loss.

Here is a link to the podcast:

Books, Grief, Interview

Blog Talk Radio: Author Linda Schreyer and Writer Christina Rasmussen


Tears and Tequila co-author Linda Schreyer hosts a new episode of Blog Talk Radio with life coach/writer/speaker/founder of Second Firsts: Christina Rasmussen.

From her Amazon bio: “Christina Rasmussen is on a crusade to change the way we live after loss. As a founder of Second Firsts, an organization to help people create a pathway back to life after loss, Christina spends her time speaking, coaching, and helping thousands of people rebuild, reclaim, and relaunch their lives using the most powerful tool for personal reinvention: the human mind.”

You can purchase Christina’s book, Second Firsts: Live, Laugh, and Love Again on Amazon

Here is a link to the interview!